You're Jealous of People Who Are Better Looking Than You
“I’m begging of you, please don’t take my man.” Dolly Parton — Jolene
When you walk into a room and half the people undress you with their eyes….those of us who rely on our sense of humor and personalities, are filled with jealous rage.
If your mere presence makes people tremble with excitement, do us a favor and keep a healthy distance from our boyfriends, girlfriends, or spouses.
While it’s true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, some are blessed with the kind of physical attraction that is universally accepted as mesmerizing and irresistible.
We all remember that boy or girl in high school who could attract anyone they wanted because their hair, body, skin, and swagger were perfectly shaped and configured.
That person every girl and boy lined up for, not based on their wit or charm or ability to make them laugh…or anything at all, other than their physical superiority.
It sucks.
If I had a dollar for every person who swore good looks wasn’t important, I’d have enough money to pay a surgeon to sculpt me into a Harlequin cover model.
There is nothing worse than that awful, creeping realization that the love of your life is slowly, tortuously, methodically being swept away from you under the spell of someone more attractive.
When lightning strikes in a bottle
Few things in life feel as good as someone wanting you — romantically and sexually.
Someone who gets chills when you touch them.
Someone, who when they close their eyes at night, fantasizes about how it will feel when you ultimately kiss them.
We should be thankful for what we have…but find me one person who’d be willing to trade their fabulous looks for a better personality or a few extra IQ points.
Some of you might claim that true love is what’s beneath the skin — our heart…our spirit….our soul.
And you may be right, but ask yourself, if you could take a pill that would make you so attractive the rest of the world would find you irresistible, would you take it?
Of course, you would.
Does that make you shallow and too focused on physical beauty?
Maybe.
But so, what?
We’re all human.
We’re all vain.
We all want to experience that look of sweet, innocent, surrender in our lover’s eyes.
You probably think this is where I’m going to try and convince you that I was just kidding, and we shouldn’t be so physically materialistic.
Nope.
Attractiveness is a definite advantage.
Pretty people make more money, have more sex, and are treated better than average-looking folks.
So, what do we do if we’re not particularly attractive?
We could jump off a bridge.
We could use filters and Photoshop ourselves into a perfect physical specimen.
We could search for people who tell us intelligence and money turn them on and hope they’re telling us the truth.
We could try to convince ourselves we’re enormously sexy and people just haven’t realized it yet.
Jealousy is a foolish burden
If it’s any consolation, traits like honesty, dependability, sincerity, and generosity become infinitely more valuable as we get older.
They’ll always be someone prettier and sexier and more attractive, but, at some point, it no longer matters as much.
We eventually need more.
We ultimately do see beneath one’s beauty.
For many of us, a moment will come when the intoxication of reciprocated passion is so profoundly moving — a moment where we’re so grateful to have such a transformative human connection….an experience so transcendental — that the person we love, will disappear before our eyes.
And we’ll be left with their glowing aura — a whimsical ghost.
We’ll realize a power, a connection so deeply moving emotionally — if only for a few seconds — it’ll make us believe we will live together, forever.
If we’re lucky, we’ll get that glimpse…a split-second peek at what true love is….but it will be very fleeting and if we’re too focused on the physical, we’ll miss it.